It helps to well on the other side of it, Odet, and to be fully uplifted, having understood the powerful growth that came out of these experiences. Thank you.
This was quite a tough read. What you've had to live through, and where you've got to from there, it's incredible. I too am letting go of striving and trying to control outcomes, it was using up all my energy, and life is so much more enjoyable now that I'm focusing on what I enjoy, on writing, and not what might or might not be happening to the writing I've already sent out. Thank you for sharing this, your writings make a difference.
Thank you, Lisa, that is good to know. I hope you too find that letting go is just a massive relief, and allows good things into the space where striving used to be.
Wow. Your perspective is priceless. I read about your awful divorce experience, and so much reminds me of my own (husband and 24-year-old girlfriend suggesting I can't take care of my three kids in a sickly sweet "we are your allies" kind of lie), but then I read on and can't believe your story can get any worse. The threats to your personal safety and accusations of alcoholism and harming your children - that is the worst nightmare anyone could imagine. I'm so glad you saved yourself, with the help of your brother, and grateful that you've written about it here with such clarity. Your pieces always inspire me and make me feel seen. Holding back tears now. Thank you.
Thank you, Serena. I am so glad to be of value to you and others who have suffered similar experiences. I also recommend letting those tears fall. Crying can be very healing as we acknowledge and release the pain of the past. Much love to you.
Such a good point about crying. I don’t even know why I felt the need to hold back - I was just sitting in my living room! But yes, your stories are helping so many people. Your work directly inspired my last post about the end of my previous relationship and its lasting effects. So thank you. 🙏
Thank you Ros, for your hard work as always that you put into your writing, thank you for letting us in one of the many doors to seeing parts of you that were painful, traumatic, heart stopping, heart wrenching. Despite the upheavals, grief and injustices that you have had since then to date I'm so happy for your happiness that you have in your life now. You deserve the best in abundance🤗
Excellent writing, Ros! At first I thought I was reading fiction. What a story you have!! Thanks for letting us in on such a deeply personal part of your life. I enjoyed seeing you come through( the wreckage intact and thriving! 🤗❤️
God knows how you did keep going, Ros, but were so glad you did. This is such a powerful lesson - I’m working on my striving and clutching and grasping every day. But god it feels good to just let go.
Wow. Just wow. Thanks for sharing such a personal and painful journey, and how you made it through to the other side. I am so glad you are on the other side and able to share your gifts with us. You are a real gift to me in my life.
Thank you, Diane. When we stop "pushing" the future can just flow effortlessly towards us. We can still take positive actions, just with out the "push" bit!
I'm about to fix some toast. Looking for the Material book. I went through some similar things at about the same age but just don't have your recall. I've buried it. You are helping me unearth it, so thanks, I think. Always rooting for you. Lots of Aquarius fixed energy there. Standing for ground for the sake of community and the collective. Much gratitude. So glad you made it.
What a human story, Ros. And what insights about gratitude, appreciation, surrender and letting go as the way out of despair, self-destruction, misery and hopelessness.
Your story is relatable because I’ve been there in my own way.
Thanks, Ryan. Of course I am sorry to hear that you have been there in your own way, but then maybe that was powerfully formative for you too, and so not to be regretted.
This is just simply wonderful.
Thank you, Hannah.
How do you manage to write about deep pain in such an uplifting way ! 🤩
It helps to well on the other side of it, Odet, and to be fully uplifted, having understood the powerful growth that came out of these experiences. Thank you.
This is wonderful. Painful, raw, x-ray insightful, then uplifting, beautiful and I rejoice. Gosh, you are.
Thank you so much, Andy, and thanks for restacking.
Well, now I am going to have to go back and read all your previous pieces. Weekend, meet Ros! 💚
That’s a lot of reading! I hope you have a great weekend, Andy 💜
This was quite a tough read. What you've had to live through, and where you've got to from there, it's incredible. I too am letting go of striving and trying to control outcomes, it was using up all my energy, and life is so much more enjoyable now that I'm focusing on what I enjoy, on writing, and not what might or might not be happening to the writing I've already sent out. Thank you for sharing this, your writings make a difference.
Thank you, Lisa, that is good to know. I hope you too find that letting go is just a massive relief, and allows good things into the space where striving used to be.
Wow. Your perspective is priceless. I read about your awful divorce experience, and so much reminds me of my own (husband and 24-year-old girlfriend suggesting I can't take care of my three kids in a sickly sweet "we are your allies" kind of lie), but then I read on and can't believe your story can get any worse. The threats to your personal safety and accusations of alcoholism and harming your children - that is the worst nightmare anyone could imagine. I'm so glad you saved yourself, with the help of your brother, and grateful that you've written about it here with such clarity. Your pieces always inspire me and make me feel seen. Holding back tears now. Thank you.
Thank you, Serena. I am so glad to be of value to you and others who have suffered similar experiences. I also recommend letting those tears fall. Crying can be very healing as we acknowledge and release the pain of the past. Much love to you.
Such a good point about crying. I don’t even know why I felt the need to hold back - I was just sitting in my living room! But yes, your stories are helping so many people. Your work directly inspired my last post about the end of my previous relationship and its lasting effects. So thank you. 🙏
I don’t know how I missed that post, Serena. Just liked and commented.
Thank you so much! It means a lot.
Thank you Ros, for your hard work as always that you put into your writing, thank you for letting us in one of the many doors to seeing parts of you that were painful, traumatic, heart stopping, heart wrenching. Despite the upheavals, grief and injustices that you have had since then to date I'm so happy for your happiness that you have in your life now. You deserve the best in abundance🤗
Thanks, Rebecca.
You're welcome Ros. I'm so proud of you🤗
Excellent writing, Ros! At first I thought I was reading fiction. What a story you have!! Thanks for letting us in on such a deeply personal part of your life. I enjoyed seeing you come through( the wreckage intact and thriving! 🤗❤️
Thank you, Kim. I know. It's a mad story. I can't believe I lived through it sometimes.
What an amazing 'story'....it can be so tough to surrender, but life takes us on an amazing journey when we do 🙂
Absolutely 💜
God knows how you did keep going, Ros, but were so glad you did. This is such a powerful lesson - I’m working on my striving and clutching and grasping every day. But god it feels good to just let go.
It does, Sara. Relief. It’s one of the best things you can do for yourself. It is ending self-torture.
I sometimes wonder how I kept going myself. I mean I almost didn’t. It was a hard, mad time.
Wow. Just wow. Thanks for sharing such a personal and painful journey, and how you made it through to the other side. I am so glad you are on the other side and able to share your gifts with us. You are a real gift to me in my life.
Kass, I was very moved by your comment. Thank you. I'm glad I made it, too!
There is so much value in surviving, then thriving, and then doing whatever can be done to light the way for others.
A very personal memoir beautifully written. I love the thought of surrendering as I feel like I am always ‘pushing’ towards my forward.
Thank you, Diane. When we stop "pushing" the future can just flow effortlessly towards us. We can still take positive actions, just with out the "push" bit!
Were you talking to me, the Queen of Resistance? Hmmm...how did you know I need to surrender? Thank you, Ros.
Haha, I WAS, Jan, I was talking to you. It's a pleasure. Enjoy surrendering your resistance. You will still be a Queen, but Queen of Flourishing.
I'm about to fix some toast. Looking for the Material book. I went through some similar things at about the same age but just don't have your recall. I've buried it. You are helping me unearth it, so thanks, I think. Always rooting for you. Lots of Aquarius fixed energy there. Standing for ground for the sake of community and the collective. Much gratitude. So glad you made it.
Thanks, CG. I appreciate your support so much. You are always first in line to restack my notes and post, and I notice that!
*Standing your ground
I needed to hear this right now. Thanks, Ros.
Thanks, Chris. I’m glad to be of service.
What a human story, Ros. And what insights about gratitude, appreciation, surrender and letting go as the way out of despair, self-destruction, misery and hopelessness.
Your story is relatable because I’ve been there in my own way.
Thanks, Ryan. Of course I am sorry to hear that you have been there in your own way, but then maybe that was powerfully formative for you too, and so not to be regretted.
I appreciate your empathy, Ros. It was, and I don't regret it at this moment. As Ramana Maharshi said, 'It had to happen.'
Such a powerful piece of writing Ros..I could feel the pain and the shrinking to become invisible..this resonated with me. Thank you 🙏🩷
Thank you, Alison.